okay guys,
I am so close!

and I'm not depressed, because I am getting a better understanding. Thanks to everyone so far!
I put in the quotes, tried again and got in the command prompt:
C:\Users\Owner\Documents\MY DOCS\Xmas lights\Panther Sequence Builder>"C:\progra
m files\arduino\hardware\tools\avr\bin\avrdude" -c usbasp -p m328p -b 19200 -U f
lash:w:"C:\Users\Owner\Documents\MY DOCS\Xmas lights\Panther Sequence Builder\Pa
ntherDMXPlayerV200.tex":i -U lock:w:0x0f:m
avrdude: can't open config file "": Invalid argument
avrdude: error reading system wide configuration file ""
C:\Users\Owner\Documents\MY DOCS\Xmas lights\Panther Sequence Builder>pause
Press any key to continue . . .
re-reading the instructions, I saw that it said to drop the HEX file on to the batch file. I was using a TXT file for the PantherDMXPlayerV200 file. So I saved it as a HEX and tried it again. Same response (other that it saying PantherDMXPlayerV200.hex).